We believe that all humankind shares the same source of origin- Adam and Eve. That is, we all are a product of the love of Adam and Eve. Abraham Maslow suggests sex as a basic need of every human in his hierarchy of needs theory. But how much do we know about it? Well, we all know that after a certain age we all go through major physical, mental, and emotional changes. Therefore, as we come to a certain age, we begin experiencing the need to get intimate. We start to learn that love and relationship have another side too.
As we all know that sexual intercourse plays an important role in reproduction. Birds do it, animals do it, so do us, humans. Men and women alike have sexual desires, which vary from person to person. Fulfillment of those sexual desires brings sexual pleasure. While sexual pleasure can bring excitement and joy to one’s life. However, having sexual satisfaction is of utmost importance for the well-being of a human, physically and mentally both.
What is Sexual Satisfaction?
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When most people think about sexual satisfaction, they instantly think of an orgasm. It is a feeling of intense pleasure when the person is at peak of their sexual arousal and excitement. But sexual satisfaction entails much more than the physical pleasure of sex. There is no denying that sexual satisfaction includes the attainment of sexual desires and pleasure. However, limiting it to these experiences is not justifiable. Different people define it differently according to their feelings and perspectives.
Sexual satisfaction in a relationship is an exploration of physical and emotional desires between two people with mutual respect and reciprocation. While we know that having a feeling of trust and security brings two people closer, so does they help in achieving sexual fulfillment. When people feel close to each other emotionally and have a connection between them. It automatically enhances the experience of getting intimate, thereby helping in satisfying each other sexually.
To fulfill your sexual needs, it is not important that you love your partner too. Although it does add to feeling emotionally satisfied, you need to have an understanding and mutual consent to attain sexual satisfaction. Most importantly, you need to feel good about yourself and your partner. If there is any regret after an intimate session, you might not have gained ultimate satisfaction.
A Pleasure and A Gender Gap
Many studies indicate that men have orgasms about 95% of the time during partner lovemaking, while women only have orgasms 50% to 70% of the time. Some women argue that men are only interested in getting off and don’t care if women do as well. When women feel that their partners are not interested in fulfilling their desires or dismiss the idea of pleasuring them. They start getting disconnected emotionally and physically. These complexities continue to affect women’s interpersonal relationships, leading to well-documented issues such as orgasm inequalities, chore-like sex, grudging approval, and relentless pretending.
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Such a gap creates psychological and emotional doubt and discomfort between two partners. Men start having insecurities of not being able to provide sexual satisfaction to their partners. It can lead to aggressiveness during sexual intercourse which can further dampen the relationship. Men begin to give too much focus on issues like long-lasting erection, premature ejaculation, and the size of their penis. While studies have shown that all of the other factors have nothing to do with women’s sexual fulfillment, yet many men believe so.
Similarly, women criticize themselves and judge their physique. It ends up with them thinking about whether or not are they attractive enough for their partner to last long in bed. Some women think of sexual intercourse as their duty towards their partner. For them, the sexual satisfaction of their partner is of prime importance. Sometimes to achieve it, they ignore their pleasure and contentment.
Taboo Around Women’s Pleasure
The stigma of female desire is still a subject that rarely discusses. While things have progressed since the days of head coverings and dowries, there is still a reluctance to discuss female sexuality. People need to understand that in terms of sexual desires, women and men are the same. We must recognize the role of poor sexual education in exacerbating these problems. Many women enter adulthood without knowing where the clitoris is or how to orgasm. Because authentic female sexuality is so absent from sex education, the media, and daily conversation.
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There is shame associated with discussing subjects like sex and pleasure for women. They are made to believe that they should be enough to satisfy their partner’s demand. This even leads them to keep up with beauty standards to make their partner happy. Bleaching, labiaplasty, and other cosmetic procedures demonstrate an ingrained beauty ideal and stigma around women’s bodies.
Furthermore, the societal pressure of not indulging in sex for women brings guilt in them after a sexual encounter. Feeling as though they have done something wrong, or they should not have enjoyed it as much as they did. The stigma attached to female sexual desire is not only aggravating, but it is also harmful to women’s minds worldwide. It does not matter what your gender is, sex is a human act and there is nothing to be ashamed of.
