How do you write a book? Evidently, you sit down at the keyboard and you put one word after another until it is done. It is that easy and that hard. A good piece of literature is evolved when a writer does not bend, does not water it down, does not try to make it logical and not even edit his own soul to suit the trend. It is when the most intense obsession is followed rigorously. Mark Manson in The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck writes his heart out and presents to its readers a life that already existed in a way it had never existed before.
The words self-made are usually associated with entrepreneurs. This time we acquaint this word with the renowned author, Mark Manson. He is an alma mater of Boston University. A blogger at first, this young man has now become an idol for those who needed to listen to reality. Manson started his writing career in 2008 when he began publishing blogs on dating advice. By 2010 he started another blog namely ‘Post Masculine’. It was in 2011 that he self-published his first book ‘Models: Attract Women through Honesty’. The book was later reissued 6 years later.
Manson had his first breakthrough after he published his world-famous novel “The subtle art of not giving a f*ck”. Not soon did he publish his third book ‘Everything is fucked’. Mark Manson is a star blogger with more than two million readers. His first venture in the field of writing got him the recognition he deserved.
Why this book?
Over the years Mark has been working on correcting the delusional expectations one has from his own self and for the world. This is to pay an ode to the hard-fought wisdom of this exceptional writer which is illuminated in this groundbreaking book. So now let us abide by the principle of 80-20. This is how eighty percent of a book can be summed up in like twenty percent of the words.
The first thing you need to know when you read the book is that you are aware of the concept of stoicism. It implies that before you have to worry about something, think if there is anything you can do about it. In case you can then just do it. What is the point in worrying? And in case there is nothing that could be done, then again why worry when there is literally nothing that you can do anyway. In the end it is you who has to decide whether you want to give a fuck about something or not.
Are Emotions Overrated?
There are times when you over rationalize a situation when all you should have done it just let it go. The F word in the book is to demonstrate the process of worrying and thinking you invest over a certain thing. Giving less fucks or simply worrying less is indeed the way out. That is how you lead a good life. The power of something to make you uncomfortable lies within you and not in the situation. You have just one life and this life is a little too short to spend on giving fucks on things that do not matter a lot.
Is happiness a Problem?
Another take away from the book is that if you fetch positivity constantly, you are kind of making your current experience negative. However, if you wholeheartedly accept your negative experiences it is actually a good sign. This trait is what governs a positive person and not the hope for positivity. A lot of us fall down but seldom do we laugh at our own selves. A fall is not going to define you in the eyes of onlookers. It is rather how you deal with that fall that defines you. Focus on accepting your fall and maybe grin at the mistakes you made. This is something that will help you emerge even stronger after a setback rather than over rationalizing the pull. Let that pull push you to the limits you never thought of.
Ever wondered if I do this and this then what will so and so say? What will be the consequences? Will I be able to do it? What if this happens? What if I lose everything? And boom! Plan Aborted. Mark Manson suggests that stop giving all these thoughts a fuck and just do the thing. That is exactly what you should do with your little precious life.
He also mentions that not giving a fuck does not mean that you stop caring about anything at all. No. Not giving fucks is not going to get your expectations fulfilled. Work your ass off and get yourself a life that you deserve. Keep in mind that at times the situations you consider problematic might not really be so. Love the process and not just the result. The accomplishment you look forward to might seem exhilarating but so is the process of getting there. At the end of the day it is you who has to validate your very self. So, trust yourself and the process. Happiness is not some passive state of being that you can just achieve. It is more of an ongoing action.
Let’s talk it out.
The writing style is extremely casual. It is written in a way that makes you feel you are at McDonalds for a noon time chat on a weekend with a guy named Mark who tells you how to actually live your life. The tone makes you want to know more even though it gets repetitive. There might be times you would actually like to pen down a few quotes from the book for references. Despite the very flashy eye-catching title, the book is about how to examine the values that you choose to center your life around. Do not just take notes of these values. Rather get experimenting and observe what things you prefer doing and what you spend your thinking about. This will eventually reveal the core of your values.
Do not chase for that emotional or temporary high for a fleeting moment, instead endorse and cherish what comes to you. The obstacles birth happiness along with slightly upgraded obstacles. It is an upward spiral and if you stop at any point, then dear reader I am afraid that you are missing out the replenishments of the climb itself.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck adduces the grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eyes kind of real talk. It comes with a hint of blasphemous humor and interesting stories. This manifesto asserts a counterintuitive approach to living a good life. This book by Mark Mason is worth a good read. Get on a journey to explore your own self and embrace this beautiful gift called life.