Do you want the type of love you see in movies and TV shows? We all do. But what is being loved like that? In real life, love is knowing how your partner’s eyes glow when they’re happy, how their cheeks blush when you compliment them and how their voice changes when they are sad. Love is just making through conflicts and moving towards happiness together. Being in a relationship is not easy, but couples who really want to together find a way. They go through the ups and downs because they find each other worth it.
Why should you make your partner feel loved?
It’s all too easy to take everything for granted, especially when you have been together for a long time. You no longer put in efforts for your partner, make them feel special or loved. After a point, you just let things be.
Everything seems normal and nothing special. You start to feel like they are always going to be around no matter what, why should I go that extra mile then? And then one day it all comes crashing down.
A relationship becomes stagnant when it has no spark and you do not feel special anymore. It is important to make your partner feel loved because the more you give, the more you will receive. If you want to feel loved, make your partner feel loved.
Why is it important to receive love?
Receiving love and affection always feels good, even if it is from a stranger. It’s something that happens at a scientific level. Additionally, it also alleviates your level of oxytocin or the ‘love hormone. We are so accustomed to giving love to others, being kind to everyone, showing affection to others that we often forget about receiving the same.
Moreover, feeling loved has health benefits too. It lowers your blood pressure, stabilizes your mood, and keeps you happy and healthy. Make your partner feel loved to receive love.
Tips to make your partner feel loved
Making your partner feel loved is an integral part of any relationship. Check out these tips to know how to make your partner feel happy, special, and loved.
1. Compliment them
Tell your partner they look good, smell nice, you thought about them all day and more. If you do not compliment your partner, who will? Compliments encourage self-love. If they love themselves, they will love you. Moreover, stop being under the misconception that only guys should compliment girls. Everyone, irrespective of their gender, feels insecure about their looks and attractiveness. Make your person feel secure about themself.
2. Appreciate them
It is a human tendency to forget the good things and remember the bad ones. Consequently, it is always a good idea to appreciate the little things your partner does, be it something as small as checking up on you. Tell him how difficult it can be without them and you appreciate their presence and efforts. If your partner is out there working for your family, tell them how much you are grateful for it. If they are at home doing household chores, tell them how much it means to you. Moreover, both of you are sacrificing something for each other, appreciate it.
3. Personal space
Sometimes, one tends to forget there is a life beyond each other. Their world can include you, but it cannot revolve around you. Couples often argue because they want to hang out with their friends, without the other one. While being together for a long time, we often forget we have a life beyond that, be it with our family, friends, or even work. Stop expecting to be a part of everything they do, respect their personal space and maintain yours.
4. Give them attention
Do not constantly use your phone while spending time with them. No matter how busy you are, it is always important to give them your time and undivided attention. Do not make them feel unwanted, ever.
5. Little things
Love is not just about grand celebrations and overly expensive gifts. It’s all in the little things. Moreover, it’s the little gestures of love. These can be something as small as reaching out to their hand while walking, making their favorite dinner after they have a long day, watching their favorite movie with them, and more.
While talking to your partner, it is important to listen to them too. Naturally, do not make the whole conversation about yourself. If you do not listen to your partner, who will? Listening is an important tool in any relationship. Be a good listener.
7. Do not bottle up things
There cannot be always flowers and sunshine in a relationship. However, when there is rain and thunder, it is important to be there for each other. Communicate what has been bothering you and what does not work for you. If you do not say these things to your partner, there is no way they will know it. Do not bottle up things and communicate smoothly.
8. Keep improving
A relationship is supposed to make each other better and better. No one is perfect. Embrace your flaws but improve your bad habits. These can be something as small as cleaning the messy kitchen instead of leaving the mess behind, put your dirty clothes in the laundry instead of throwing them around, and more.
9. Build trust
It is natural to feel jealous when you see your partner getting close to someone. Playful occasional jealousy is good but being constantly insecure, possessive, and jealous at all times make the relationship toxic and suffocating. Instead of being jealous, build trust between each other. Talk about things that bother you and work it out together.
10. Appreciate what you have
The grass is always greener on the other side. It is a human tendency to want what others have instead of appreciating what you have. Stop comparing yourself with other couples in your social groups. Additionally, stop pressurizing your partner to do what other couples have been doing.
This can be something as little as going on an expensive vacation just because someone else went. Appreciate what you have and stop creating insecurity.
Sometimes, we all go through a rough patch in a relationship. But that is not the time to give up and leave or letting each other go. Tell them you both will work harder to make it work because what you have is too good to give up. Work it out, communicate and make them feel loved. Making your partner happy is not your job because you cannot be happy because of someone, however, adding to your partner’s happiness is your job. No matter how long it has been, do not stop putting in efforts and let the spark die. Enjoy the little things and stay happy together.